Trust can be an elusive thing, but we know when we have it and we know when it’s gone. The other day someone told me their goal was to “earn back the trust I have lost.” In recovery from addiction, return to trusting can be a long road.

When did…


“Loving connection is the only safety nature ever offers us.” -Dr. Sue Johnson

We aren’t big mammals with sharp talons or teeth. We are social creatures and pack animals that rely on our connections and communities for survival. Even if we sometimes feel alone or isolated, there is a vast network of people who help us in small and big ways: making our…


THE SCIENCE OF ALCOHOL

“We believe, and so suggested a few years ago, that the action of alcohol on these chronic alcoholics is a manifestation of an allergy.” -Dr. William Silkworth, AA Big Book

One of my frustrations with Alcoholics Anonymous has been the naming of alcohol use disorder as an allergy. I have…


“Wherever you go, there you are.” -Jon Kabat-Zinn

“Always the dream was somewhere else, further off, and I took a series of geographical cures in search of myself.” -Alcoholic Anonymous, p.338

When I was around 25, I embarked on what my father would later dub my “Magical Mystery Tour.” I…


While the pandemic has been an enormous challenge for many, some silver linings exist. For those getting sober, the year of no parties, sporting events, or packed bars has been a welcome reprieve. Those getting newly sober often worry about how to manage socializing with friends and family.

“I don’t…


“We admitted we were powerless over ______________ and that our lives had become unmanageable.”

Step One in the Twelve Steps can be a tough pill to swallow. No one really likes to admit powerlessness, especially in our individualistic culture. The American way tends to value the kind of bootstrapping that…

Ana Maria Martinez

Hi. I’m a psychotherapist in Colorado writing about recovery, therapy, and self-care. I think growth itself is a spiritual path. I love art, nature, and food.

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